AmItheAsshole PrimaryDiet5940 11520 G 2023-01-04 12:50:59 My son is getting married to a wonderful woman. 2 Reply DisgruntledPelican54 43 min. For context, OP is getting married soon. At that time we hadn't discussed the rules yet, we just knew it would be very strict. 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Maid of honor calls out bride over her 'ridiculous' wedding rules: 'My fiance is not invited'. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. I always say have your wedding wherever you want, but dont expect everyone to travel far to attend. The parents offered her money under an either/or scenario, so maybe they should say whilst they are disappointed that first 5K has been lost as a result of being non-refundable, they will hold the rest until such time as the couple are ready to put a deposit on a house. "AITA for uninviting my family from my wedding because they want me to share it with my sister?" The OP is currently trying to plan her wedding around the pandemic. I Crochet Miniature Animals, Birds And Other Creatures (30 Pics), Here Is A Collection Of 57 Mind-Boggling 3D Illusion Art Pieces By Kurt Wenner, 50 Times Signs Were So Funny, People Had To Share Them On This Facebook Page, 23 Y.O. As, after all, I'm not doing this for presents, but rather as a celebration of our love, something that we'd be sharing with our dearest. First up it's AITA for quitting my husbands 70 year old business? I would not marry a man who condoned this behavior from his mother. First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for sharing their valuable point of view, it's truly appreciated! My fiance ( 23M) and I (23 F) are getting married in less than a month. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. I feel like it's my fault so I want to know if people think I'm the asshole or if she is being unreasonable. Let's keep in touch and we'll send more your way. But what if that day doesnt come? I have regretfully declined weddings I couldn't afford to attend. If they do rebook, they are required to return the deposit. Konstancija is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She has a bachelors degree in Translation and Interpreting and a masters degree in Future Media and Journalism. A woman and her fiance got invited to go on holiday by car, and it turned out they would have to endure a screaming baby and bad odors for the whole trip Image credits: 55555551i2 The original poster on the Reddit subforum embarked on a road trip with her fiance's family and it went quite poorly from the get-go. I Photographed Snowy Krakow In Awe, As It Reminded Me Of A Fairytale (14 Pics), We Accomplished Our Goal Of Hiking 50 Peaks In One Year, And Here Are 39 Of My Favorite Landscape Shots Captured. Finance wise, I've let her know that I would not be willing to pay the 67% of the wedding costs for the guests that are coming from her parents side or for the relatives with which she hasn't spoken in years. Brian Skellenger. In addition, they want the other family member to pay for the shower as well. NTA. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA for leaving my husband's brother's wedding after I got told to sit with "formal guests"? 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You can read more about it and change your preferences, , a leading wedding planner platform in the UK that provides a wide range of services for engaged couples, to find out some insightful nuances about wedding planning. My sister-in-law, who lives on the other side of the country, is upset that we won't pay for her ticket and is now refusing to come to the wedding. NTA but there's an easy solution here. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My mother thinks I'm being an asshole because I don't want her to bring one of her friends to my wedding. I might be the asshole for not considering her feelings on the matter. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. My 2-year-old son can't attend, either. Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app. Therefore, she and her fianc requested that each guest gift them $1,500 in cash to pay off their wedding. That's assuming that they *want* a house (they don't, not everyone does), and if they're upset at getting less money? (And it goes both ways, if you move across the country you can't really expect people to show up for everything, and you can't be upset when you don't get crowds for your wedding). You really do love to see it. Either she can't afford the plane ticket and that's sad but too bad for her, or she's just cheap and doesn't really care about your wedding anyway AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! Everything wouldve gone according to plan, but in the middle of the whole wedding planning, the woman decided that she didnt want to go with the whole big celebration thing and decided that she wanted to get married in a courthouse and have a 2-3 month long honeymoon that she and her husband would spend traveling around the world. That's my question. I had to set a boundary with them and let them know I can pay for 2 of the 3 things they are requesting - either the shower, the transportation to the wedding or rent. They've only got themselves to blame. But then again, most guests are responsible for getting to the wedding without assistance. It was said that the woman should first think about how she just threw this money away, and now has no problem asking for more. I'm very happy that he has recovered and do want them to have the wedding they dreamed of because they do deserve it. ye hq uo. Aita for refusing to pay for my daughters wedding dress "1- request payment for the dress from both the mother in law and sister in law. This sounds like it is months in advance so people like the dj and photographer have plenty of time to find a new gig. Couples like to put their own personal touches on their weddings and also save money on hiring a wedding planner, shared the CEO of, Get the best of Bored Panda in your inbox. Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Saul Tolstych. Assuming that you don't weaponize the fact that she misses the wedding. Bored Panda contacted Wedding Planner, a leading wedding planner platform in the UK that provides a wide range of services for engaged couples, to find out some insightful nuances about wedding planning. if she cant afford to come, then she cant come. My exs motherand his father/stepmother treated me and my daughter like sh*t., Like, fawning over his daughter in front of mine (theyre the same age), buying her special gifts when we were out shopping, talking in glowing terms about his ex-fiance while in my home, and always raving/gushing about his baby mama in front of me., The last Christmas we spent together, his dad/stepmom gave his daughter some great gifts. So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. A lot of users online agreed with the man, stating that she isnt entitled to this money, its seen more as the parents generous offer. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. 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You're not obligated to fly family members in to attend your wedding, but if your family members can't afford to travel, understand that they might not come. But you also can't be upset with them for missing events. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/TopicLinksContainer.3b33fc17a17cec1345d4_.css.map*/ before contacting the mod team. NTA. CareyHope/Getty Images. Non refundable deposit, aren't. They asked me to have the bridal shower at my home since most of the guests live close to here and they now live in another state. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Everyone wins! They want me to use my savings that I have carefully planned out to pay for my college so that I can graduate without debt to pay for the bridal shower and wedding transportation. Be delicate, but don't back down. I'm a photo editor. I highlighted that I'd prefer we'd invite only family and friends that we're actively communicating and going out with, that I'd rather spend that precious time with people I care most for, rather than being split around tables having to entertain people I rarely even talk to. 787 top end rebuild; can you. And his name is Crazy man. What happens when you cant spend one of the most important days with someone you want to spend your whole life with? 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I'll try to digest every input you lovely people gave me! The parents decided to help out their daughter by giving her $10K for her dream wedding that she already spent half of while planning her big day celebration. Then it's the namesake. I have attended numerous wedding, sometimes far away, I always paid for it. Hey Pandas, What Was Your Popular Moment? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I've let her know that we will split the finances percent wise for up to 35 invites from each other's side, and that she'd have to cover entirely the extra guests that'd be coming from her side (any guest above 35). AITA? While I disagree with this imo and would never do it. "She was shocked to hear me say . So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. The creator of the site explained: We always say to couples that they should try and not put too much pressure on themselves from both a financial and an emotional perspective. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Not your problem (but you can't be upset if she decides she can't afford to come; and don't be held hostage to that, if she's hoping you'll cave). To complete the subscription process, please click the link in the email we just sent you. It's the "don't post to FB" episode. I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. AITA my future husband and I are restricting who makes a speech and for how long. Anyhoo)., NTA OP. Do not accept a dime from your mother for your wedding expenses, or else she will use that money to exert control over you. There is one topic that I see mentioned a lot, that being the 67/33 part. and our There are so many views that I haven't even considered and you are all right in your own way. Not the A-hole I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. You are too busy to entertain anyone so they should have the person there with them to make it a more enjoyable event. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. 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"Only Smart Brides Save Money": Fianc Loses It After Finding Out His Wife-To-Be Spent $400 Of Her Own Money On A Wedding Dress Ieva Gailit and Ilona Balinait In an ideal world, planning a wedding would be a thrill. NTA. if you cant afford to foot her fare, then dont. On the other hand, she didn't ask for more than what was remaining. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. "Also likely spread many rumors. My dream is to get an RV and travel around the world with my dog. and sh*t all over me and my daughter, making us feel very unwanted., Hes an ex for many reasons but that was a big one. I don't think it has to be said but to be clear I completely understand that this was unforseen and a very stressful time for the both of them. 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Unsure of what OP should do, they reached out to Reddit for wisdom. My fianc used to live in another country, and so our guests are divided. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. She has been with her fiance for 10 years, and they are . Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here. Even though this sounds like a great alternative, the parents were quite upset with their daughter spending their $5K on caterers and wedding-related things that they couldnt get back. OP is NTA.". This is true You have to demand the deposit back from whom you payed it to. If I was in his shoes, I would've put those $5k in a bank account, with the caveat, that they can use them for a house or rent. .FIYolDqalszTnjjNfThfT{max-width:256px;white-space:normal;text-align:center} (Closed), Hey Pandas, Share A Unique Way You Display Your Books (Closed), Here Are My 31 Heartfelt Illustrations To Brighten Up Your Day (New Pics). Aita for wanting my husband of 25 . In my free time, I love going to art galleries, exhibitions, concerts or just hanging out in nature with my friends. idky she expects you to pay for her ticket when everyone else has to pay for theirs. Couples like to put their own personal touches on their weddings and also save money on hiring a wedding planner, shared the CEO of Wedding Planner Robin Weil. cf; pf . We put this canyon fee on our invitations. Yes. Or vice versa. It will not get better.~HumbleGarb, Run. Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! This page may contain sensitive or adult content that's not for everyone. Skip to GTV: 10:00. 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He is an avid roleplayer and storyteller occasionally masquerading as a rational human. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. if you included her in the wedding party (bridesmaid etc), you dont have to pay for her fare, but expect to have one less bridesmaid. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. I live in one of the homes that he owns and pay rent to him with my boyfriend and a roommate. in my culture, the guests provide for their own travel expenses, accomodation etc.. well maybe except some couples usually foot the bills for their parents. Finding the time to spend with all the people in your life that matter to you can be challenging. I have a feeling that the parents would do exactly that cos they seem like good decent people. We decided we wanted to have our wedding up in a canyon, but to access this canyon it costs $10 So we're having our guests Pay the $10 to enter the canyon. After you are married, your MIL will treat your kids differently because they arent her biological grandkids., Things like birthdays and Christmas will become nightmares., I am not talking about paying for education or other more extravagant gifts, just the everyday living experiences., I am not saying you expect any of this, it is just what will probably happen. Sounds complicated? There's the spouse, kids, friends, parents. This is a huge red flag and your fiance is not making a good decision here.~Top-Ad-2676, This is spot on. You can change your preferences. But they are not assholes if they won't come as a result. Going to art galleries, exhibitions, concerts or just hanging out in nature with my and. She and her fianc requested that each guest gift them $ 1,500 in to... 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